Dinner for one, please!!

A very dear friend of mine, once told me that one of the fundamental differences in men and women was that men have absolutely no problem in going out and eating at a restaurant all by themselves. He does it at least once a week. It helps him clear his thoughts. I, on the other hand, choose the company of my very close women friends to achieve that. I tried the eating out alone thing, but i left before i even place the order.

That night i had a though, are women that uncomfortable with the idea of being alone? Is that why we choose to socialise and agree with the double-standards of being escorted. Heck, women seldom ever go the the ladies room all by them selves. Why? Why is it that women are more at ease when in company, agreed its the company of select few, whereas men are more particular about having thier space.

Men hate going to parties stag, mostly. However, thier dates change every so often. And even during the party, they choose to hang out with thier friends and be able to check out the women, while the women make attempts to be checked out.

Then i wondered, are these wierd paradoxical behaviours the reason why men and women co-exist and fit, or are they the reason why the battle has just never ended? Or is it both? Is it that opposites attract, or is it that they enjoy it thanks to the option of distance and the benefit of mutually understood communication?

These are few of the never answerable questions, simply for the fact, that if and when someone chooses to answer it, a person of the opposite sex, questions the answer.

Published!!!

My article has finally got published on the following link....

http://www.howtodothings.com/family-relationships/how-to-talk-to-your-teenager

I am so so proud of it!!

Humbling Experiences- 2

Its really amazing how life can show u 2 paradoxical emotions in the same day. At one moment you see joy like none other when you get news that one of your best friends is getting engaged and the next you hear that one of your close friends died due to a cardiac arrest.

The whirlpool of emotions leaves you so numb in the head that you can not think straight, you can barely talk and each and every thing happening around you confuses you. You start to talk absolute nonsense, you snap at your sister and have a huge fight where she starts to wonder what the hell is wrong with you when all she was doing is asking you if you're handling it ok.

And then you just go crazy and have an argument with one of you're best friends because of your very own stupidity!!!

I really dont know the point of this post... if any of you get it... explain it to me!!!

Humbling Experiences

Citizen's Alive organized the Pune leg of the Global Peace Walk on the 10th of December 08. As a part of the movement, it was quite amazing to witness how much the people have awakened since the 26/11 blasts. Youngsters, who earlier were considered to not care about what happens in the country, were a majority in the Rally. Many of them were seriously of the opinion that it is a now or never situation in the country. If we don't take a stand now... the change that we want to see, will never materialize.

And i agree with that sentiment. As the tag line goes " Be the Change you want to see". I think, and i disagree with my previous post, (which was just written in a state of pure anger), that it has to be a fully rounded change in the entire system, in the mindsets of the people, to the extent of various behaviors. We have to start taking onus and not just blame. We have brought ourselves to the place we are in, good and bad. And we will be the ones to take ourselves where we get. So its up to us to make sure that we get to a better place.

Why settle with worthless leadership and just complain, when we can enter the system and change it for the better. If we don't do it, who will?? Why adjust to unacceptable living situations when we can unite and improve things. It will take time. And it will take effort. But if we never start, it will never happen. So its better if we start now. Because there is not better day to start something good, than today!!

I just hope that everyone realizes this. Several drops make an ocean. 1 man can really make a difference!!

India!!! My land!!!

In the legendary Trojan war, The War Of Troy as many may know it, Troy was unbeatable for her walls were impenetrable. But as the legend goes, Troy was in ashes when Achilles and his Myrmidons breached her walls with deceit.

Today i feel like a trojan. My beautiful country has been attacked by outsiders. They entered my land and are burning my land, killing my people and attempting to intimidate us by fear.

In the Trojan War, the entire Greece had to unite to bring down Troy. I think we should learn a little something from them. We should all unite, shed our differences, and come together as one. For, our enemy is not one of us, it is an outsider and the fear that they are enforcing upon us.

I refuse to live a life of fear. Around 260 years ago, the British invaded us, and we succumb to the fear. It took us 200 years to gather the strength to overthrow them. I refuse to let that happen again. This time round we will not succumb to the fear. We will not turn the other cheek. We will hit them back, and hit them hard.

The entire world is aware of the real source of this violence. I say we kill the gaddam source. For once and for all, India will have to end this game that has taken more lives than it can afford. We care more of how the rest of the world will react if we fight back, but the rest of the world is not seeing thier own people die innocently, we are. So I say to hell with what others think. We have to fight back. And in a way, that they will never stand back up.

I am a muslim and these attacks have nothing to do with my religion. If anything its attacking my religion as well. There was a muslim wedding going on in The Taj the day of the blast. Do you think that these terrorists care if the one dying by thier RDX is a hindu or a muslim? No. They are attacking Indians. And we need it to stop.

How many more lives will have to go before we get the balls to stop this?? I say, KILL THEM!!! And end this wicked game once and for all!!!!

Decisions (slightly arbit)

It odd how decision the we were once convinced to be the best once we ever made, later seem to be the biggest mistakes of our lives!!

Why do we dilute the emotion and thought we put in to our decisions with the repercussions of the decisions?? And why do we question our very core of belief systems on the basis of how somebody else's decisions and their acts turned out to be?

We take the awesome feeling that love and only love can give and turn it in to a guilt trap and a culmination of all the wrong decisions we make. Everybody makes mistakes, and we accept it when its someone else, we comfort and we cheer. But why is it that when we make those very mistakes, the intensity not in consideration here, do we keep on obsessing and questioning and whining about it?

I believe that if something doesn't work out the way we want it to, it wasn't the right thing for us anyways. Is it an overwhelming superiority complex that leads to it, or is it that I have chosen to learn from others mistakes, and mine, and moved forward a stronger person, a better person.
They say that, the purest form of gold is acquired after it goes through the highest temperatures of a furnace. But isn't the purest form of gold really weak? Then why is it that we don't settle for the slightly impure, but stronger?

Too many questions, a very short life. Why, then, do we question more than we live?